I love it when Love works its miracles in front of our eyes instead of between the lines that we cannot see. Remember the movie that what’s-his-cute-face was in where he was Siddartha, oh yeah, Little Buddha? That scene where he finally wakes up…and those two lines he says right then… (said in an east Indian voice with head shaking slightly) “If the string is too loose, it will not play…if the string is too tight, it will break.”
Those strings are our energy centers, affecting our thoughts and in turn, our emotions. When they are too tight and closed, we think and feel as though we will break (fear in all forms and formats)…when they are too loose, we lose our sense of discretion and direction.
Our task is to learn to walk the middle way, even in the midst of flying between too tight and the fear of being too loose. This is the walk of a bodhisattva, my love. You know that what you feel or even think in those moments of tightness and fear (fake it till you make it) has nothing to do with anything. It’s just a feeling, just a thought, and this too will pass, eh?
Love, Love, Love, Love, and more Love…and just keep walking the middle way. As the Bible says, “Yea, though I WALK through the valley of the shadow of death…Thou art with me. I shall know no fear.” This we must learn to do, keep moving, and making all the instant decisions to just do the Love thing, even though we are not feeling or thinking the Love thing in those moments. When we get stuck in our thoughts and feelings…we are sitting in the valley of the shadow of death, and not walking. ”Just keep swimming,” said Dory in the movie, Finding Nemo. Though thoughts are riddled with fear, and the body is contracting in pain, and we are suffering…the task is to keep walking…the middle way.
It is in action that enlightenment lives…not thought or feeling, but what we actually do…how we express ourselves. So, the task at hand is to become extremely connected and perceptive about how we as individuals work…to notice everything about ourselves…when we contract and what stimulates it…when we expand and what stimulates it…what kinds of thoughts stimulate what kinds of emotions.
Awareness…mindfulness. Meditation and yoga are the two freeways that I know of to that destination of becoming mindful and aware, along with journaling, so that we can make the choice to keep walking, in every situation, in every challenge, and every confrontation. The first stanza in the Bhagavad Gita states our beginning steps on this path: “Dhritarashtra said: On the holy plain of Kurukshetra (dharmakshetra kurukshetra), when my offspring and the sons of Pandu had gathered together, eager for battle, what did they, O Sanjaya?” Dhritarashtra as the blind king (the blind mind), cannot see or know. Sanjaya (impartial introspection) can see all without judgment or attachment. The king is asking through impartial introspection, to analyze all that he said and did that day, as looking through his own “good” and “bad” tendencies (tight and loose).
Our task is to impartially look at our daily actions each evening, and then use that information to consciously change the trajectory each day as we travel our life-paths. Awareness. We must take our attention off other people and their decision making, and simply keep our attention on our own impartial introspection, and how we are doing in each moment. This is the path to true change and enlightenment. Bliss. Joy.
I know it makes a world of difference for me. It ain’t always easy, but I know it’s always the right thing to do. As we head into potentially stormy waters in our lives, our job is to just stay calm, because sometimes, the waters of life get really rough, and we have to steer the ship through this. Loved ones can look to us for strength in these moments. We can be the lighthouse through this…the only thing they may be able to keep their sights on when all else is pitch black around them.
One thing I’ve come to know about people that I like to be around, is that they have an innate calmness and deep-rooted grounded-ness usually from doing a lot of self-care (yoga, meditation, etc.). I’ve not met too many people like this…but, I just exhale in their presence. I think we all need to be able to exhale deeply every day with all that is on our plate of life, and all that we try to care for. We cannot do it for others, but we can provide the womb-space for them to do it, by becoming that centered and grounded presence…through impartial introspection. In this, we create our own space of nourishment and strength.
When the mental and emotional body get to rockin and a rollin, and you need help, call someone who can help you find that middle ground again…surround yourself with support in all forms: people, meditation, yoga, good food. Find someone with a strong ability to stay impartial – usually they’ve been through a lot in their own lives, and have a good understanding of what’s real and what’s not.
Focus on Joy creation. Invite others into that, and accept with grace when they need to do something else. I will forever remember the Thomas Beebe (a friend of mine) philosophy of life, because he nailed it with this statement: “Coolness!” That was his answer to anything that came up, whether it was what he wanted or not. I learned a lot about life from that one word and that one man’s attitude.
We are diamonds in the rough. All gems get polished along the way. Life’s confrontations are what make us so beautiful. And Love…our conscious decisions to act from that space…are the real miracles in life, bringing forgiveness, compassion and a quiet strength into this world, so needy of Love.